On Oversharing

Back in 2006, I started this blog as a way of keeping friends and family updated on Robb's condition, as he recovered from a spinal cord injury.

But I'd be lying if I said that this was the primary goal.  In truth, I started writing this blog as a way of protecting myself emotionally. I just could not bear to talk to every person who was concerned about Robb, and rehash all the same frightening details of his medical case.  Talking about it, over and over again, was tearing me apart. I needed to conserve my energy to deal directly with Robb's case.

The blog was my much-needed shield.

I could discuss the parts of Robb's recovery I was comfortable sharing. I could stay quiet about the things I considered nobody's business.  Folks who cared about Robb could feel connected. And I could avoid a lot of emotionally draining conversations at a time when I was totally exhausted, both physically and mentally.

This blog helped keep me from losing my equilibrium.  Robb got a ton of support, and I could manage my emotional and mental resources.

In the years since then, I've talked about a lot of very personal issues. And I've also kept silent on a number of topics that I didn't want to share with the entire internet.  I know there are a lot of people who find solace in discussing the minute details of their own and other people's medical conditions.  I am simply not one of those people.

I am, at heart, a very private person.

Having said all this, I want to let folks know that I'm going to be having some surgery next week. I've been dealing with an intractable and extremely painful medical condition for the last two years.  This is not a dangerous condition, but it has caused me unbelievable physical discomfort.  The non-surgical treatments have not improved anything. This condition has totally up-ended my life. 

After two years, I cannot continue to live with this level of pain.  

Readers will have to forgive my vague language on this topic.  My condition is not life-threatening.  Beyond that it's not anyone's business but my own.

I'd be very touched if you could think of me, particularly on Monday. But please, respect my boundaries at this time.


Jason F said…
Keeping you in my thoughts. Sending love.
Unknown said…
Lisa, I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Just know that a sense of humor (which you have) and determination (which you have in spades) will get you on the way to pain free good health. In the past ten years I have had 2 hip replacements and part of my left lung taken out (I never liked that lung anyway) It's given me pain free and healthy years where I can walk for miles and breathe at high altitudes and low. Prepare yourself for your surgery by visiting your PT, if that's appropriate, and taking measures like strength building yoga or swimming, if that is advised. Go in with confidence in your doctors and surgeons, enjoy the magical drugs, and accept help and love when it's offered. Set up a schedule, or like lucky me, my girlfriends did, of care after your surgery. For 3 and a half weeks after my lung cancer operation, I had 11 girlfriends come in, one at a time, and sleep on the couch, do my meds, rub my feet, and bring me tasty morsels. I was cared for 24 hours each day during that time. Of course you have your darling Rob, which can take the load off your caretakers a lot, but he will need help and breaks, which your friends can offer. I really thought i was going to die, since Phil died of the same cancer 5 months previous to my surgery. But here I am! And you will be out making art, knitting , petting your kitties and causing trouble in no time. Best of luck. To the breach!!!! Jennifer
Unknown said…
Monday, dearest Lisa, you are in the prayers of this humble but fiery fiece agnostic. Crappy stuff hurts. Surgery is a trial. But it can make life better. My many surgeries helped me, and this one will help you. I love you, and I love Rob. How can I help?
Anonymous said…
Praying for you and your medical team. Thank you for sharing a part of your life and amazing pictures!
Blue Butterfly
Sending prayers and virtual hugs your way!

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