Tuesday, September 12, 2006

Lisa

Thanks to everyone who wrote in with their support for Lisa the other day. One of the great observations was the reminder that what happened, happened to us both.

Lisa has probably felt like she's not entitled to any sympathy since it was not her in the hospital bed, etc. But these past seven months have been a test of all her physical, emotional and spiritual reserves and she has come through. I don't know where I'd be without her and I don't know where she finds her strength.

In the first days after my injury she was there, keeping everyone informed, researching and making enormously important decisions about my care and still managed to be by my bedside my every waking moment. And through it all: the late night visits and long drives home, the nervous transition to home-care, right down to taking over every last household chore, I never had a moment of doubt that she would be there for me.

When people convey their sympathy over my situation, I feel unworthy of it since, after all, I have known something many people will never experience: an expression of true love and devotion far above and beyond the ordinary.

My greatest comfort, seven months ago and today is the certainty that I have a brilliant, resourceful, deeply devoted partner by my side. I'm a very lucky guy.

20 comments:

Anonymous said...

Think you said it all, Robb. I think we all wish for the sort of relationship you and Lisa have. I know I certainly do.
Zoe

Anonymous said...

Robb... I think those words are more therapeutic than anything any of us could have said.

Bandaid

Anonymous said...

Hang in there. You both will draw strangth from each other to get through this difficult time.
Love and Pray to both of you

Eclipse said...

The two of you and the love you share will sustain you through this and beyond.

Pyratemates said...

Amen, my friend, Amen

Anonymous said...

And she carves awesome stamps too!
-CCLB

Gramatrick said...

Sniff. What a beautiful sentiment!

You guys have certainly passed one of the strength of relationship tests. The others, you ask? Living through a kitchen renovation, having one of your mothers live with you for 4 months, and managing to successfully put up a Christmas tree with a crooked trunk.

I think she's grand too.

Dewberry

Anonymous said...

marry her!

Anonymous said...

I originally was going to comment on the the previous blog by Lisa, but I'm putting it here today. What Lisa is feeling is very typical of someone in her position. As quoted from an artical from Family Caregiver Alliance "in an effort to provide the best possible care for a family member or friend, caregivers often sacrifice their own physical and emotional needs, and the emotional and physical experiences involved with providing care can strain even the most capable person. The resulting feelings of anger, anxiety, sadness, isolation, exhaustion—and then guilt for having these feelings—can exact a heavy toll." Quite often the caregiver does not seek help in coping with these feelings which usually only makes the situation worse for them. Lisa needs to realize that her feelings are valid and should find a professional who can assist her in working her way through this. I'm sure Robb is very supportive of Lisa, but sometimes it helps to hear it from someone who is objective. Best wishes to both of you on your continuing recovery.

FG

Anonymous said...

Stop it, I'm tearing up here sitting at my desk at work.

I hope for a true loving relationship like you two have. It's taken me awhile to realize I never really had that previously. Reading your thoughts enables me to see clearly how true love can enhance your life.

I keep praying for you, for continued strength for both of you and continuing blessings on your lives.

KuKu

Anonymous said...

Wow
perfect

SheP in NS

Ziska said...

Angels Creed


I am here to be helpful.
I take care of myself so that I can help take care of others.
Although the tasks I do may seem small or unimportant,
I contribute light and healing by the very fact that I show up and care.
I remember that the only correct way to do anything is with love.
I bless myself by helping others.
I am rich with the gifts of compassion, understanding, joy and hope that I freely give.
I believe that one person can make a difference.

Anthony D'Agostino



http://www.kitchenangels.org/5.20.howtohelp1.html

Ziska said...

Angels Creed


I am here to be helpful.
I take care of myself so that I can help take care of others.
Although the tasks I do may seem small or unimportant,
I contribute light and healing by the very fact that I show up and care.
I remember that the only correct way to do anything is with love.
I bless myself by helping others.
I am rich with the gifts of compassion, understanding, joy and hope that I freely give.
I believe that one person can make a difference.

Anthony D'Agostino



http://www.kitchenangels.org/5.20.howtohelp1.html

Anonymous said...

It continues to amaze me how strong you both are for each other. I think of you often and cannot put into words how much I admire you both.

Be well.
Laura

Anonymous said...

Know that you give inspiration to us all.

Anonymous said...

know that you give inpsiration to us all and hope to find someone who would support us that well in times of need.

Anonymous said...

It is not an easy path for either of you and both of you. But you will both find your way because you are both sensitive to each other. That is a rare quality...run with it!

Bandaid

Anonymous said...

Hello,
No news is Good News so they say. How are the both of you doing? I hope all is well and you are to busy letterboxing to post any messages. Thinking about you and Robb.
Rumford Teapot

Anonymous said...

damn straight.

Annalisa

Anonymous said...

I have been reading this blog since the accident, 7.5 months. According to the 'counter' there have been almost 17,000 hits! We all have been priviledged to read, learn and wonder at the beauty of what's going on here--not only the photographs (which are amazing) but the love, the devotion. I can't help but think by reading what's going on in these 2 people's lives that it's somehow making me a better person. Thanks for sharing it with us, you two.
~~Doublesaj~~

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