Robb and I were talking about the concept of "mourning the future we'll never have" a few nights back. I suspect we both do -- and don't -- think about these things.
I had always imagined a future where he and I would continue to travel, and to do so in a big way. I pictured us traveling (on the cheap) through Asia, or Latin America. Given Robb's inability to sit for long periods for time without excruciating pain, this view of our future seems very far away, indeed.
This sort of thinking is depressing, and I suspect, a waste of energy. It doesn't help to dwell on what we don't have, or can't do.
In fact, I think one of the big Life Lessons we've been forced to learn is the importance of valuing what we do have, rather fretting over what we don't.
So we can't travel, right now. Instead, we have the opportunity to take a meaningful look at where we are, and enjoy the uniqueness of that place. Example Number One: I've been tending a little Urban Garden, and get a lot of pleasure out of noticing what goes on in this tiny green spot. A few days ago, I had lunch with this splendid fellow.
Since Robb is not working, we are forced to be extra-careful with our money, which is an opportunity to be more creative with the resources we do have. Example Number Two: I've been trying to think of interesting uses of the weird yarns I've accumulated over the past few years. Right now, I'm making what may be the craziest sweater in the universe out of yarn that's been cluttering up my life for quite some time.
Example Number Three: well, that would be Robb's entire life. He exemplifies resourcefulness, and good spirits. I don't know how he does it, but he makes navigating his new circumstance seem like an opportunity for cleverness, rather than an invitation of a pity party.
Do you like how well Mister Fence Lizard's blue markings match the blue of my knitting? Nice, huh?